How can I support my child?

There are so many ways parents and carers can support their child at home, ranging from being 'school ready' to developing a strong growth mindset. This page provides lots of tips, ideas and helpful links to support parents at home.

General Support

Children can achieve well at school when their family and friends take an interest in their school and schoolwork. Getting involved in your child’s education, even in the simplest way, shows that you care about their school life. Often, the more supported a child feels at home, the more effectively she or he will learn at school. Whatever your lifestyle, or family situation, it is never too soon (or too late) to start helping a child develop a positive attitude towards learning.

Here are a few key points:

Try to give encouragement and show appreciation of your child’s achievements, whether great or small, as this can help boost their confidence
Learn together, do things together, visit interesting places, talk about things you’ve seen on television and encourage your child to ask questions
When a child comes home from school, they may be tired so try not to fire too many questions of your child as soon as they walk through the door

Supporting your child to be more resilient and confident

There are a number of simple strategies to help your child develop resilience and confidence. The YouTube video above by teacher and child psychologist Jean Gross, shares tips for helping children believe in themselves.

Getting Children Ready to Start School

Starting primary school can be daunting for you and your child, but it marks the start of an exciting new chapter. Before you know it, your child will be making friends, learning new skills, and becoming increasingly independent.

Here are five tips for school readiness:

1. Support your child's independence

The most useful thing you can do to get your child ready for school is to make sure they are comfortable doing simple tasks by themselves. This includes:

- Going to the toilet. Resist the temptation to pop your child onto the loo and wipe their bottom. It is better to get your child into the habit of doing this for themselves.
- Getting dressed. Avoid clothing with fiddly buckles and buttons.
- Putting on shoes. Tie-up shoes might be a bit difficult. Go for shoes with Velcro fasteners if possible.
- Eating. This includes using a knife and fork, opening their lunchbox, and being able to open everything in the lunchbox (some yoghurt tubes and drink cartons can be tricky)

2. Build up your child's social skills

Learning in a classroom is a social activity. Children learn and develop by playing alongside their peers, and they will make better progress if they are happy mixing with other children and adults. You can encourage this by:

- Practising greetings. Your child should know how to start a conversation with their new classmates. You can use dolls and soft toys to practise saying “hello”!
- Practising conversations. Giving your child time to talk – and also having time when they have to listen – teaches vital speaking and listening skills. You could take turns to talk about the best part of your day during dinner. Can they ask questions to find out more? Can they remember their sibling’s favourite part of the day?
- Encouraging sharing and tolerance. Games such as Snakes and Ladders let children practise social skills and turn-taking. Be sure to use the language of turn-taking, like ‘Whose turn is it next?’ and ‘Thank you for waiting’. Why not arrange some play dates with your child’s new friends to put this into practice.

3. Make a start on early Literacy and Numeracy skills

Your child is not expected to have amazing literacy or numeracy skills at this age. However, there are some ways you can get your child ready for learning:

- Help them recognise their name. It is handy if your child can find their space in the cloakroom, and can keep track of labelled clothes and other belongings.
- Share stories. Reading to your child improves their vocabulary and listening skills, and acting out stories is a great way to practise communication. You can find free eBooks for storytelling in this eBook library.
- Hone fine motor skills. Building hand strength, fine motor skills, and hand-eye coordination helps prepare your child for writing. Making Lego models, using scissors, and threading beads onto string are fun ways to develop hand strength.
- Introduce them to numbers. Why not go on a number hunt around your local area and take pictures of any numbers you find? You could also sing counting songs together or count objects as you set the table for dinner.

4. Help your child learn to concentrate

Being able to concentrate in 10–15 minute bursts will be really useful at school. Here are some ways to practise:

- Enjoy extended play together. Building kits like Lego are great for encouraging your child’s resilience, especially if they can finish the activity in one sitting.
- Follow instructions. Giving your child simple instructions to follow helps build their concentration. Why not have a go at some of these child-friendly recipes?

5. Talk to your child about school

Talking about the exciting things your child is going to do at school helps them get over any nerves. You could:

- Visit the school. Some schools have induction visits for children to meet their new teacher and spend time in the classroom. Walking or driving past the school at the end of the school day and watching children come out in uniform can also be very exciting!
- Talk about how fun school is! If you’ve been to a settling-in morning, there might be something your child particularly enjoyed playing with. Giving your child time to talk also lets them raise any concerns or questions. Why not take some time to read one of many books about starting school together – some favourites are right here.
- Practise the school routine. It can be helpful to do a practice journey before the big day, looking for interesting things on the way. It might be a good idea to make sure your child has school-friendly bedtimes and getting-up times a few days in advance.

Useful online activities

There is a wealth of online activities that parents and carers can access at home to support children with what they learn in school. Here are some possible website to use:

BBC Bitesize (all subject areas): https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize

Oak National Academy (all subject areas): https://www.thenational.academy/

Top Marks: https://www.topmarks.co.uk/

Oxford Owl (great for free eBooks): https://www.oxfordowl.co.uk/

White Rose Maths - 1 Minute Maths: https://whiterosemaths.com/resources/1-minute-maths

Times Tables Rockstars: https://ttrockstars.com/

Mathsbot.com: https://mathsbot.com/

Khan Academy (Mathematics): https://www.khanacademy.org/

Supporting your child to have a growth mindset

A growth mindset is having the belief that we can actually improve our intelligence and strengthen our skills by putting in effort and facing challenges.

According to this way of thinking, we aren’t bound by a limited set of talents or level of intelligence that we were born with. We can actually grow these areas.

The term growth mindset was originally coined by educational psychologist Carol Dweck in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Parents and teachers have since worked to instill this way of thinking in children to help them navigate through challenges and maintain a positive outlook.

Dweck contrasts a growth mindset to a fixed mindset.

People with a fixed mindset believe that we were each dealt with a certain hand, so to speak. We were born with a given level of intelligence or set of abilities. There are things we excel at and things we are just not good at.

But children who have a growth mindset have been shown to be happier, healthier, and achieve more in life!